Updated: Mar 19, 2020
Imagine if something terrible happened in your life. A life changing event that left you with a loss. A car accident, an illness, a sudden separation from a person you love or the unthinkable - the death of a loved one. Would you be able to face life knowing you had to live with that loss for the rest of your life? How would you deal with it? How would it change your perspective?
From my own experience a life changing event can either have 3 outcomes. The first is fear. If the life changing event happened to you in first person it might be that you are afraid. Afraid of not getting better, afraid of facing social situations, afraid of never being the same again, afraid of being alone. This fear dwells in you, producing a sadness that can become overwhelming and can often turn into depression.
The second outcome is self pity or becoming the victim. You start to live every single moment of your life as if the world was against you. You dwell on the misfortune that life has served. Not finding a parking spot ends up in the same category as tragic events because everything that happens in your life becomes a tragedy if it is not easy or immediate.
The third reaction of dealing with a life changing event is to to feel grateful. Yes, grateful. Feeling an immense sense of gratitude after a life changing event is one of the best possible ways you can deal with any trauma, in my experience. Whatever it is that happened you are still here and able to read this post. In my case I was left entirely paralyzed on the left side of my body after a ruptured brain aneurysm. Until this event happened, I had no idea how lucky I was to be the proud owner of good health. Unfortunately, like myself, many of us do not understand the utter importance of what it means to have your health, we tend to take it for granted, thinking it will always be there. Until we are forced to go through something so painful it finally awakens our dulled senses forcing us to understand how unbelievably lucky we are.
If your not grateful then most likely you are unable to change your perspective. To change your perspective you must focus on the positive. Force yourself to move forward, to keep moving, to keep trying, to keep building the person you were meant to be. Do the work. Change your perspective.